For some, this day is one of the most romantic, passionate times of the year and for others, it’s dreaded. A reminder of their lack of lover, simply an over-commercialized excuse for card stores and flower shops to make a fortune.
Trust me, I understand. I was there – after my marriage of 20 years ended. Seeing all the romantic couples, love stuff everywhere made me feel disillusioned.
Back to those who are single – how do you deal with this day where you feel like you are going to vomit if you see more hearts, xoxo’s and professions of love? First and foremost – you fall in love with you! There will be plenty of time to share these occasions with someone else, but it’s not often you will get to have a date to celebrate the amazing person you are! The more confident you are, the more it is projected to others which is a huge turn-on. It also puts you in the best position possible for a healthy long-lasting relationship. So, after wishing those you love a Happy Valentine’s Day, get off social media where all those “my life is perfect” posts are and begin the pampering. Buy yourself your favourite beverage and treat, get in your comfiest clothes and write a love letter to yourself. Imagine all the things your future mate would say they love about you. Go one step further and write a love letter back, indicating all the things you love about him/her. This is a great reminder of what you need/want in a partner to pull out later in case you are ever tempted to settle for less. For those who believe in manifestation – this is also a great technique. Want to really feel empowered? Do something your ex hated that you always loved and count your blessings for being able to do it now without judgment. Reflect on other opportunities you now have that you did not have before. How will you continue to grow to be the best possible you, so that when you meet the right man/woman they will compliment your life – not complete it? Nothing is a greater turn off than those who drop everything and make their life revolve around him/her once they get together. Having your own interests, friends etc. and keeping up with them is highly attractive!
Now, for those who cannot stand the thought of a date with yourself- call some people who adore you or reach out to your other single friends for a safe zoom dinner/cocktail party/movie night, etc. Want to really get into the occasion? This may be hard for some, but we can all use more love so why not tell each one of them what you love/like most about them? Still not sold? Never a better time than to get in shape so consider trying a new workout, going for a walk to explore a new area, or watching a great new series on Netflix with a big bowl of popcorn. Do your favourite hobby or even better finish a project you have been putting off.
Bottom line is that as lovely as it is to have a partner to share the occasion with, the grass is not always greener on the other side. So many would kill for some time with themselves to do what they like. Remember – Valentine’s Day is just one day, over in an instant, but it is a great opportunity for you to prepare for your future lover and ensure you completely love and appreciate the most important person in your life – YOU!
Happy Valentine’s “Day”!