Red Flags Checklist

Please Check All That Apply

    SECTION I - Projecting the Future:

    Would I want to spend the rest of my life with this person exactly as they are?Would I want this person to raise my child?Would I want my child to be exactly like this person?

    SECTION II - Are You Talking Yourself Into a Relationship?:

    Do I want to rescue or “help” them because I see their potential?I love the way they look or their status and it builds my self-esteem to be with themWe have some things in common and so I’m avoiding looking at glaring differencesThey appear to be totally different than people I’ve been with in the pastI’m focusing on one important quality (money, sex,fun, humor, etc) and ignoring unmet requirements

    SECTION III - Danger Signs:

    Reacts to frustration with anger, rage, blameBlames others or circumstances for life situationTries to control everything, including meImmature, impulsive, and/or irresponsibleEmotionally distant or void, aloofStill pining for a past relationshipWants me to make their sad life betterMarried or otherwise unavailable to commit to meActive addiction, addictive behavior (rationalized as “not a problem”)

    SECTION IV - Other Common Red Flags:

    Is pessimistic and negative about things that matter to meLacks integrity in dealing with people, money, etc.Judgmental attitude toward themselves & othersUnwilling to self-examine, accept feedback, take responsibilityDoesn’t keep agreementsWhat they say about themselves doesn’t match realityEmotional roller coaster, recurring or regular emotional dramaThis isn’t what I really want, but I don’t want to be aloneChangeable, inconsistent behaviorInability to listenI notice myself trying to change this person to fit what I want, instead of accepting them for who they areTalks too much (especially about self), monopolizes conversationOverly quiet, withdrawn


    A. Total Checked Items :

    B. Based upon the above results, I believe I:

    SHOULD continue this relationshipSHOULD NOT continue this relationship

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